I lost 60 pounds and physically I am a completely different person. Before the weight loss, I didn’t really go out to try to find dates. I’m 25 and have never even “flirted” with a woman let alone go out or slept with one. Being overweight made me very self-conscious physically and since no females ever showed interest in me other than friendship, I never gave the effort to pursue.
Now, I’ve been fairly OK with never dating: I’ve always been a bit different than most of my friends. Having someone romantically in my life would have been nice but it was'nt a priority. But seeing as almost all of my friends are married or are in serious relationships, I thought maybe I should think about doing the whole “dating” thing. In the past, I would go out to social events with my friends. The women I interacted with hardly gave me the time of day, they simply looked me up and down and walked away. Of course I assumed it was because of my physical appearance and more than likely it was but I always thought “oh well, their loss.”
Now I go out with friends and I women come up to me and start flirting with me, quite a few of them previously wanted nothing to do with me when I was fat. So far I haven't flirted back or anything.
I feel cocky to say this, but I'm intelligent, really sweet and caring and just all around pretty easy going guy. I want to start dating, but I can’t get past the thought, “You know, this girl wouldn’t even give me the time of day if I were still fat.”
What can I do to get rid of this or work past it?
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Your just upset with the truth is all. These women wouldn't give you the time of day not because you were fat necessarily but because they weren't physically attracted to you. In society we like to think down on physical appearance and making impressions based on looks. But the truth is its programmed into us as humans to do so. So now you have become a more attractive young man. But your still feeling sorry for the person you once were. The person you once were would have envied the who you are now and you should be happy that you have overcome something that was once holding you back. I mean you wouldn't turn down a better, well paying, fun career because they hired you based on your appearance would you ;)0