Recently, I got into a relationship very quickly with somebody who has a tight schedule. He's more than willing to cancel anything for me, but I can't bring myself to allow my selfish needs and wanting to be with him to prevent him from going about his everyday routine.
When I'm with him, I'm extremely happy. He's one of the most amazing people I've ever met, brings out the best in me and is like my boyfriend/bestfriend in one, but due to previous circumstances with other men, I'm stuck in the mindset that he doesn't care about me all that much. I know he does, but I'm so paranoid that I'm insignificant to him.
I love him a lot, and I certainly want to be with him, but I don't know what to do about us not being able to spend that much time together and sometimes it really irritates me and I just feel extremely shit that football practice or things like that seem to mean more to him than I do.
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Before going into the extreme, like breaking up with him, I would talk to him first. It wouldn't be selfish to ask him if you could spend a little more time together. Just set up a time that be boyfriend/girlfriend time. Maybe it is after football practice. Maybe is each weekend.
Communication would be the next more appropriate step instead of breaking up. Often times, problems can be easily solved with a little communication. This will also help with your paranoia about him, because if he refuses to work on the schedule or find a time for together-ness, there is no point in sticking around. He isn't willing to come down to your level and have reason.
Like I mentioned earlier, it is not unreasonable or selfish for you to ask for more time together. Just tell him how you feel, and he'll probably understand. It'd only be unreasonable if you demanded he cancel his whole life for you. You both need to compromise.
Tl;Dr; Compromise and find a good time that works for both of you. Express your feelings. Find a time where you two can be boyfriend girlfriend.
Any questions, comments, or concerns? I'm happy to try my best at resolving them.0