I want to have the hottest girlfriend in the whole world. I am not hot, but if getting a girlfriend is about social skills i can develope them and i will find the hottest girlfriend... If I am about to lower my standards, in case of a girlfriend, why should i waste my time and energy to face my fears and boost my confidence? tell me about it?
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I study personality psychology as well as relationship communications, so I'm just going to tell you briefly about what I've learned.
You've probably heard the phrase "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" many times before. It is, in fact, true. It's not really possible to have the "hottest girl in the world" because there simply isn't one. Also, if you take it literally, you're not going to meet everyone in the world. If you mean the hottest girlfriend in the world to YOU, then that's different.
Okay, back to psychology. We learn that:
1. We are generally attracted to people who are in the same "range" in looks
2. We are also attracted to people who are common
Now, there are always exceptions to these things. But when you really think about it, most couples really do seem to be "made for each other", and people who are against animal abuse won't stick to an animal abuser. It kind of makes sense when you think about it.
"Why do I need to lower my standards?" - You don't "need" to. But if you do, know that you're doing it for YOURSELF, and not for the girls around you because they are not "attractive enough".1