Speaking to a guy who is just about 10 years older than me (he's 28 and I'll be 18 in 2 months) and he's okay looking, VERY well off and wants a relationship with me. He's not interested in just sex but wants to spoil me and take care of me because apparently im "beautiful" ha! Anywaaay, point is I'm not thaaat much into him but the offer is so tempting and he seems genuinely caring.. but I don't wanna take advantage.
I have made it clear that I'm not looking anything long-term at the moment he understands. Not sure I'm ready to do the 'the deed' with him though.. Hmmmm, don't like having sex with randomers to be honest, never have and I doubt I ever will!
Please give honest thoughts and opinions!
- Yes, you're a gold-diggerVote A
- No, you're experimenting and enjoying what's on offerVote B
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As long as both you and him are honest with your intentions and feelings, then you can't be considered a gold-digger in an insult kind of way.
Everyone (both male and female) should look at people with more money as better suitors than people with less money. Typically more money means more drive, passion, and risk to follow through and finish with ones drive and passion.
I'm not saying a person with less money can't have those qualities; but typically if a person has less of something, it means they have less motivation to gain more of it. I don't know about you, but I feel motivated people are better suited to reproduce than less motivated people. Not that less motivated people shouldn't reproduce; just that motivation is better suited as a mating call (for all genders) than a lot of other qualities.
Sexual attraction is also an important quality, so that could cause you to not be as happy as you could. What sort of happiness do you need/want, and what sort of happiness are you willing to negotiate/sacrifice? Most choices a person makes are not bad given they are honest about them and not embarrassed about making them. Hiding something will more likely make an action worse than the action typically is.
Technically he would be using you more than you using him. Assuming you were honest with how you feel about him. He doesn't seem to care how much pleasure you get from a relationship with him. He is selling you the best product he knows how to sell, money. If it doesn't work out with you, he will find some other young girl to have it work out with. I'm not saying he is doing something wrong, but it is probably his best quality.
His lifestyle allows him to spend money to receive sexual pleasure. Once again, I'm not saying that is wrong. But he probably cares less about your pleasure than you care about his loss of money.
Which brings me back to honesty of intent and feelings. As long as both sides have it, your relationship would be as good as any other with it; regardless of the conditions in a relationship.
Hopefully that helped, sorry if it didn't. If you need clarification, let me know.1