People wonder why most overweight men and women have low self esteem. Oh geez, I wonder why. It is because few people give them a chance. They rejected nonstop when they ask people out on dates.
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I don't really care if they never gave me a chance. Before I met my husband, sure it hurt if a guy passed me over for a thinner woman, but they did me a favour instead of getting together with me and getting on my case about losing weight, or saying something else hurtful while we were together.
I'm one of these overweight women who (sorry to burst your bubble, fat haters who think we should lose weight because you're all concerned about our health) actually IS healthy. My cholesterol is normal, my blood pressure is normal, my heart works fine, and I've been cancer free with every scan I've had so far. Even better for my health, is my weight has never fluctuated to extremes. So when I heard men tell me that they were just so concerned for my health, I knew enough that with my (good) health, it was obviously a problem because I wasn't aesthetically pleasing to the eye.
I met men who either didn't give a fig about weight, or men who actually preferred a woman with a few extra pounds. And really, if I never did meet a guy like that, I was fine to just be on my own, as I spend several years between relationships each time and didn't really cry about it.
But hey, people want what they want. I have preferences too, and without saying what I am not attracted to, lest hurting the guys out there who fit the description of what I don't want, I found it was always best to keep my mouth shut about that and just look for what I did want. :)0
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