Girls, Nice Guy vs "Nice Guy"?

In your opinion what is the difference between a genuinely nice guy and the dreaded "nice guy"?


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  • The major difference is why they're nice. The nice guy is nice because it's nice to be nice (yes, "nice" is probably going to sound redundant by the end of this opinion). He wants to be nice because it makes him feel good, because it makes him happy to see others happy. The "nice guy" however, is nice because he expects to get something out of it. Usually because he expects the girl he's nice to, to fall for him, go on a date with him or have sex with him. He thinks that because he's nice, he's entitled to have everything his way, regardless of what the girl actually feels about him. He feels like she is obligated to do something in return for him because he decided to be nice to her. And while it is standard politeness to be nice in return, this does NOT mean she's obligated to date or have sex with him. She can be nice back without having to do exactly what HE wants. And this is what infuriates him, the "nice guy". When he doesn't get his way, he turns around and calls the girl a bitch, or a whore, or some other pointless insult. He throws a temper tantrum like a 5 year old.

    The truly nice guy (usually also referred to as "the good guy" in order to properly distinguish between him and the fake nice guy) will not care if you don't date him or if you don't have sex with him. All he wants is to make the people around him happy. HOWEVER! He also doesn't let others take advantage of him. He can tell when someone is dishonest with their intentions. He surrounds himself with people who are just as kind-hearted as him. He ditches the ones who aren't. So all in all, the truly nice/good guy doesn't expect much in return besides some basic respect. He doesn't have these crazy standards and he isn't being nice for purely selfish reasons.

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What Girls Said 4

  • Nice Guys are not nice people. They look at women like vending machines. We all work interchangeably, we don't mind if you push our buttons, and you put in X to get y out in a very cut and dry approach. The more X you put in the more Y you should get. The woman has no say in this. She simply exists to serve the Nice Guy. If the woman doesn't produce enough Y, the Nice Guy determines that the problem is with the woman and all women are broken and terrible. He then goes homes and admires his fedora collection.

    This is obviously not how women work since women are people and not things. That's why Nice Guys are not nice. They don't consider other people and they dehumanize women.

    A real nice guy does none of those things. He's just a genuinely nice person to be around regardless of if he has romantic intentions or not.

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  • Mostly that the actual nice guys don't tend to think of themselves as "nice guys"... or if they do, they would never say it out loud. Whereas the self-proclaimed "nice guys" inevitably end up crying about how some girl rejected them because they were "too nice" to her or whatever.

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  • Dreaded nice? I didn't know you could dread someone being nice.
    A genuinely nice guy doesn't have to try. He makes you laugh effortlessly, he opens doors for you, he compliments you, he gets along well with everyone. He's a gentlemen. He's just being himself.

    Now the dreaded nice guy would have to be one of two things
    1.) The fake nice guy: The one who pretends to be the geniunely nice guy just to get something out of you. Underneath he's a player. He's nice only to make you fall and bam your trapped
    2.) Push over: He's too nice which can be overly annoying. He has no back bone. He let's you rub over top of him well everyone. He's like pudding. He always takes the check. Compliments you too much. Always smiley and happy. Not good.

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  • When he is a fake nice guy and has loads of moves to try and get someone into bed and then dumps them if they don't put out and tell all their friends.

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