I'm not self-confident. I'm not charismatic. So girls hate me and think I'm a creep because of it. I'm alright looking, but nothing fantastic. I only have two or three friends, so I'm not the most outgoing either, I'm rather introverted. I've also never have had a date before... I'm incredibly caring, loving, and trusting, but I know that doesn't really matter at all. I'm not necessarily a happy person... Is there really any hope that I'll ever find someone? I know I'm not really what any girl wants, but maybe if they really got desperate enough? If there isn't any hope, is there at least some way to not care about being alone?
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Caring, loving and trusting doesn't really matter at all? Maybe if they really got desperate enough? You don't want to be with someone who is with you because she's desperate. Really. A bad relationship isn't better than no relationship. But you need to work on yourself before you will be attractive to just about anyone. It's that "I'm not necessarily a happy person." Being in a good relationship goes a long way to make you want to wake up and engage life every day, but it's not the only thing. Figure out what you're passionate about besides having a girlfriend, maybe get professional help, and learn to appreciate life, not to be attractive but because it's good for you. It will, coincidentally, also make you more attractive.
As for being outgoing, consider the "fake it til you make it strategy." I'm not painfully shy, so I know I don't totally get what you're going through, but I wasn't always as comfortable in social situations with lots of new people as I am now. I went to a summer camp one year determined that I was going to be the first to learn everyone else's names. Made for some uncomfortable exchanges when I had to apologize and ask someone for the millionth time to tell he their name, but it also made me one of the most popular people at the camp - everyone knew me, liked me, and thought of me as friendly and outgoing, even though it was totally forced on my part.