A guy I've kinda started seeing just told me he has herpes. We've already kissed quite a lot & gone as far as oral sex but no actual sex yet.
He said he doesn't get outbreaks that often & that it would only affect me on an outbreak.
He also said the last girl blocked his number once he told her & said its fine for me to do that if I want to.
I'm not going to block his number and stop speaking to him over this but I am kind of confused over where this leaves me personally, health wise if I was to start a relationship with him?
Any opinions on this would be appreciated thanks
Most Helpful Guy
You can get herpes even if he doesn't have an outbreak and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You need to tell him that he is misinformed about how herpes spreads and dump his ignorant ass. You should also get tested in case he already gave it to you.2
Most Helpful Girl
The information the guy is giving you is inaccurate.
Although he may be asymptomatic he still has an opportunity to spread the virus to you because it is always shedding.
Herpes is a virus that lays doormat in the body.
It hides inside of the cells and becomes active making the body vulnerable and suspect to infection.
-Ways to avoid catching the virus if you choose to be intimate with him-
-Whenever he feels a outbreak coming on (this is called prodrome symptoms)--such as tingling, numbness, irritation, achiness, etc, he should sustain from sexual activity.
This means an outbreak is going to occur soon and the transmission rate will be much higher.
-Do not have sex during an outbreak (when it is present)
-Make sure he is on anti-viral medication
If you avoid outbreaks with him and he gets on anti-virals there is a less than 5 percent chance he can spread the virus to you.
I admire him for being honest about his virus.
There are so many people who do not give other people the option to choose.
Whether you stay with him or not, he is a respectable man for being honest.
80 percent of the population is infected with oral herpes.
20 percent of the population are infected with genital herpes.
So, what does that say?
It is much more common than one thinks.
I find rather than the STD itself, it is the stigma associated with stds that further hurt people.
It takes as little as one person to infect you.
Some people assume that the person infected led a promiscuous life when that isn't true at all.
Whether you choose to stay with him or not doesn't make you a bad person.
You have to put your health first.
You have to decide whether he is worth taking a (slight) risk.1