My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years and decided that we are "the one" for each other. I know it sounds cheesy, but we are both 100% sure. Recently we have been talking about our future and concluded that we are both too young to settle down already (i'm 21, he's 23) and that we both have ambitions about our careers and such. He especially doesn't want to settle done until he's financially stable and until he's "explored" more-- as in meet other girls and enjoy the single life too (he hasn't been single since he started college cuz he had another girlfriend before me). I respect this viewpoint and i too think i should meet other guys before I get married too. I think doing this will also show each other how much we love each other too. As of now we both are still madly in love with each other and have no plans of breaking up yet, but agreed that if we do ever break up we'll meet again years later (he's from Georgia so he's going to move back after he graduates) and if both of us are still single, we'll get married then. We discussed how both of us really want each other in each other's futures, but it's too early for marriage now, but at the same time we don't want to break up just because we wanna "explore."
So what i was thinking that what if I ask to take a break (not now, but in the event that our relationship isn't working out as well as it is due to distance or some other factor) and during this break we wouldn't really be in a committed relationship, i mean it would be like a break-up but with the promise of getting back together again after we both "explored" during the break. Do you think this is plausible or do you think that it's stupid to even ask him this.
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I don't see this ending well. You'll go off to sow your respective oats, meet new people, fall for them, and won't be the same couple who made this agreement to have a break.0