And now the old saying "taking a back seat" sure gets literal here, doesn't it? I totally get this. It's putting you in a place where you aren't 'together'. You're not even sitting together laterally. It's like the child who gets tossed in the backseat over the adults. It's sort of the pecking order of who matters in one's life, so I can see how it would make you feel bad.
I can't presume what she would have been thinking, because there are a lot of possibilities. She could have just thought "I'm the sister, I come first," or "I've got a lot of stuff, and I need to sit in the front."
Sometimes protective sisters often don't think about their boyfriend's girlfriends if they've only been together a short time too. Sitting in the front seat before you came along in to his life was probably the norm for her and she just did it without thinking or considering that you'd take offense.
Your boyfriend isn't going to say something *after* the fact. A lot of guys usually don't go confronting people about things like this because their girlfriend found it important over an hour ago. But he might keep it in mind for next time. Guys can't stand confrontation between their women and their female relatives. I think it's probably up there with worst things ever - having to keep the peace between them.
If you get along with her otherwise and there wasn't much of a fuss after she left, maybe you can just keep it in on your mind for next time if it means that much to you. Just burn it off and try and forget it. It certainly wasn't your boyfriend's fault. He probably never even saw this as an issue whatsoever until you brought it up. As for his sister, she probably didn't either. Now that he's aware and you know it could happen again, stake your claim on the seat by either not leaving it, or placing your things on the seat if you have to get out of the car for any reason. That will send a message for next time.
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Well your boyfriend is kind of stuck in the middle here. If he says something his sister will be pissed off, if he does not you are hurt. However, I think I would have said something. I agree with you his sister should have automatically got in the back seat, especially since you two were helping her out in the first place by taking her somewhere she needed to get. I would not mention it this time but if she does it again I would say something.
ehhh i think thats super awkward, i think he didn't want to make things super awkward
If i saw or thought it would bother my girlfriend, i might say something like, "this is the queens seat, sorry princess but you gotta go in the back"
but still sticky situation
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Aww, his sister is a little jealous maybe.
odd... but no, she's blood
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