I have a lot of confidence in what I have to offer a girl. I don't think I'm the greatest guy in the world or anything, but I do think that the girl who dates me is lucky, just as much as I'm lucky to date her. I've worked hard to accomplish goals in school and in the weight room to build my confidence to the point that I could approach a beautiful girl believing 100% that she would want to be with me. It was tough, because I came from a place where I had a ton of self-doubt, which killed girls' attraction to me the minute they sensed it.
The reason I ask this question is that I was talking to a female friend recently and she said, "You really think you can have any girl, don't you?" and I said yes. Since then, she acts differently around me. I don't get it. I'm tall, I'm attractive (girls have told me that), and I truly care about the girls I date. I'm not a player at all. So is it lame that I don't believe any girl is out of my league? Would it be better if I thought lowly of myself?
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Haha! You sound awesome and I agree with you 100%. You should always feel like you are in every girl's or guys league, because nobody wants to have to reassure someone how handsome/beautiful/smart they are all the time. Sure, everyone gets insecure from time to time and there's nothing wrong or unattractive about that - it can even create a stronger bond, but I gather that you are more talking about overall confidence. It's good if it is strong - that's attractive and makes everyone involved feel a lot more secure and safe to joke around without worrying all the time that someone's tiny little ego might get crushed. However, I do know some people (of both genders) who prefer to be with a partner they feel superior to as a way of boosting their own self-confidence. Might your friend fall in that category?1
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