This annoys the hell out of me. This one guy and I have been trying to do a 2nd date but he usually asks me the day of or the day before when I already have plans and I keep telling him make plans with me a few days in advanced and don't fucking do it last minute because I'm usually already busy. Last time he planned a few days in advanced, he has something at work to be at so he canceled. He claims he's interested but whatever.
Why do guys think asking you to go out that night is ok?
Most Helpful Guy
Today's generation is completely distracted. I have told my friends repeatedly to let me know in advance if they want to do something and it never seems to register with them. Then they ask me the day of, and guess what? I can't because I am working, and I cannot simply take a day off since where I work is not fully staffed. It's likely part of the daily stimuli such as the internet, advertising/products, new technology (I swear people spend way too much time on their phone), the media and other things that consist of distractions that contribute to forcing people to refusing to use a calendar.1
Most Helpful Girl
I dated a guy like that once and it was because he was a young lawyer trying to establish his career, so his work was very demanding and he never knew day to day when he was going to be able to get away. So most of the time when we did plan ahead, he'd end up having to cancel or he'd be super late. It was just easier for him to text me when he knew he'd be getting out at a reasonable time and see if I could hang out that night.
I ended up deciding after a few weeks that it wasn't working for me because I needed more from a guy than he was able to offer at the time, but I didn't/don't hold it against him. He was a good guy and I hope that when things slow down for him a bit, he finds a nice woman to settle down with.0