Me and my guy are getting to the point where we are either going to have to split up or go the long distance route. We've talked about it and neither of us want to break up. We have a great time together and we really care about each other. I don't want to lose him.
We've talked about what we will do when we are apart eg will we spilt up (be single) and see what happens, will we stay together and remain a couple? So far we've decided to stay together, with him saying that he's considering himself attached while being away. And I agreed.
But I want to know if this can really last? He's mentioned me moving to his home country (I work freelance so it's easier) but he's also talked about moving back to Europe (where we've been living). Is this just lip service or if a guy talks about this is it real?
Can a LDR work?
Most Helpful Guy
Yes BUT you need to have very clear rules BEFORE going LDR. First, you need to have been dating a for a good while before LDR, make something really stable before you throw it to the wind.
You also need to be very clear on what kind of contact, and how frequent to keep in touch. You both need to be on the same page with this and if someone isn't holding up on there end of the deal, it is not meant to work.
You don't have to, but I would also say what you are and are not okay with when it comes to friendships with the opposite sex.1
Most Helpful Girl
Love is not measured by distance , so i do think it is posssible for a LDR to work, but twice the effort is needed than if you both lived near each other.
Personally , i would hold onto my heart until i could hold him in my arms.
Love is about making sacrifices , so you both have to sacrifice something in your lives to be able to be together. So i guess it all depends on if he is worth making sacrifices for... if he is , then don't throw away the chance of a potential soulmate just because there is miles between you. Find a way to close the gap. L0