Sorry if the title sounds silly - there's a word limit :) We are both 30, no kids. Yesterday was our one year anniversary. We did nothing.
He did not forget the date so this is not a situation where everything can be solved just by me reminding him because "oh some guys just forget."
HE asked ME weeks ago what I want for our one year anniversary. Now, I understand that not all guys care about dating anniversaries but since he was the one who brought it up, I assumed he wanted to celebrate... I think that's a reasonable assumption. I told him I wanted to go camping so we made plans to go this past weekend. I asked him what he wanted - he said a bike so I bought him a bike and gave it to him this weekend. He then decided to cancel our camping trip; when I asked why, he said 'because i don't want to go.' So we spent this past weekend sitting at home while he played video games online.
Yesterday was the actual anniversary date and after i came home from work, he basically just said "happy anniversary babe"... and that was it. No flowers, no dinner plans, no surprise, nothing.
I want to be clear I'm not upset because he didn't buy me a present or didn't spend money on me etc. I'm also not upset because I think he should have gotten me something in return for my present: I'm happy to have gotten him the bike he wanted. I'm upset because he literally made zero effort even though he remembered the date, he knew I cared, and he knew I got him a gift to celebrate. And this is especially after he was the one who brought up our anniversary in the first place and asked me what I want.
I haven't yelled or gotten mad at him because I understand that he doesn't HAVE to celebrate with me. I'm more just asking for opinions - is this me being overly-demanding and unreasonable? Or is this because he just doesn't care?
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You sound like you are being perfectly reasonable. He should not have cancelled the camping trip. That was really inconsiderate and you should be honest with him about that. If he didn't want to go camping, he should have been upfront about that in the first place. If he didn't want to do or buy anything for the anniversary, then he should have been upfront about that too. You can't just ask someone what they want, agree to it, and then change your mind. That isn't OK.2