I'm that kinda girl who's always surrounded by guys. Not because I like the attention, but because I get along better with guys than girls. Girls are nothing more but drama (guys too! but a lot less!). Also, a lot of what I do is "guy's stuff", such as working out hardcore, playing soccer or basketball, playing video games, watching animes, longboarding, wrestling, etc. I'm not your average "always-on-point" everyday feminine girl either, I wear mostly pants, "geek" t-shirts and Vans sneakers. I longboard a lot around campus too. However, I like dressing up for occasions like weddings or Church and my guy friends barely recognize me and say that I look, I quote, "hot".
Anyways, I got "bro-zoned" more than once by the guys I liked. They often say that I'm really cool and stuff, but they only see me as a friend. I'm asking that because I just got "bro-zoned" by the guy I had a huge crush on. He was doing everything that a guy does when he likes a girl; but he never asked me out or did anything concrete. Lots of people thought we had a thing, which I thought too! But he turned me down...
I'm fine with myself and I won't change for anyone's sake, but I feel like I'm doing something wrong...
Can you guys tell me what I could do to avoid the "brozone" once more?
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Your regular "guy friends" really enjoy being your friend - you are an awesome friend who does the same kinds of activities that they do, and clearly you are comfortable with how they behave (being competitive, adventurous, but also sometimes crude, crass, and sexual, etc.). HOWEVER, your guy friends know that if they don't actively FriendZone you, that the sexual tension and competition will ruin your friendship - maybe even with all of them. If you start dating one guy, it will change your relationship with the other guys - maybe a couple of them secretly like you, etc., but they can all deal with it as long as no one is dating you.
As someone else suggested, what you need to do is target guys outside of your group of friends - guys who aren't invested in a "friendship" or (BROship) with you. Let them see both sides of you - the competitive, physical, down-to-earth skater-girl AND the hot girly-girl. They will fall over themselves wanting to be with you, because they won't be hurting anyone else (that they're good friends with) by dating you.1