I am dating such a wonderfull man. He loves me so much and I love him. We've been going out for a year but in secret because he's parents are so racist against me due to my race. They told him if he doesn't break up with me they will go back to sri Lanka. He's father assumes my family has a low income, I'm ghetto, I'm easy going, and etc with black sterotypes. But he is extreme wrong I go to uni, work, have a A average, speak 3 languages, an investor and my parents are going to retire in 7 years since their retirement is 3.5 million. I live in a nice house, my parents are very strict and want only A+'s. They think B's mean your failing. Back to the point. I'm scared. He and I want to just move away together and not tell anyone about our future and us. Any advice?
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Most Helpful Guy
Girl you tell his dad to fuck off. Lol just joking but have you tried showing him that you're not what he thinks you are? Maybe showing him your grades and tell him maybe where you live if it's a nice neighborhood and be well dressed. But if he's a racist as you say he is. It's kinda hard to change racists... And it's just an empty threat believe me. My mom did the same when I dated my girlfriend but then I showed her how great of a person my girlfriend is and now she loves her sometimes more than me! Try getting your boyfriend to show his dad that you're not what he thinks you are.1
Most Helpful Girl
Hey, I'm tamil so I hope my advice will be useful :)
Firstly, on behalf of my race I am really sorry about all the racism it holds against black people. Tamil culture are really the 'stick to our own kind' type but nowadays our generation has many open minded people, but unfortunately this isn't the case for you.
I would strongly advice you to keep dating as I know people whose parents have accepted their relationship over time. Bear in mind this won't happen overnight, your boyfriend should calmly talk to his parents and be mature about this. Hopefully, after you have been dating for longer, they would realise that you guys are serious and in love. I would also recommend meeting his parents and them meeting your family as my mother used to have stereotypes about black people, but after working with them and befriending some she has become far more tolerant and accepting.
Assuming your age on this is correct, you guys are adults? This means you have the right to make your own decisions and they can not stop your boyfriend from dating you. However, I would not recommend moving in with your boyfriend anytime soon or something like that as tamil parents frown upon that as they believe in sex after marriage. Although, this is entirely up to you two, I'm just giving a heads up.
I think right now you should stick to your family values and continue your education, you seem like a very smart girl so prove his parents wrong! But please, please don't make this situation into your boyfriend straying away from his family because I have seen this happen. Involve them and trust me, if they really love him, they will eventually be okay with it.
Good luck, reply if you need any other advice :)1