I'm 18 in a week, he's 27, so its a 9 year difference. I've known him a nearly a month now, and we've gotten pretty close. I met him at a friends party and the connection was pretty clear. At first the texts were friendly, but now they've become way more flirty (I initiated most of it) and he's promised to become more... active... with me once I turn 18. Besides the flirty texts, we actually do have pretty good conversations when we hang out with each other. We're completely different; I'm starting college in a few months and I have a shitty job at a fast food restaurant, he has a good job, he's graduated university, has his own place and money. And honestly, I actually like that he's not my age because guys between the ages of 17-20 (the ones I've dated) have been extremely predictable and I like this guy's maturity. So should I go for it or am I just being too naive? I feel like a lot of people would be grossed out by the difference but I am sexually attracted to him and I like being around him.
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like you like his maturity and personality. That's great. Sorry guys but I think there's a good chance many guys your age will probably think it's weird because they don't like the idea of girls in their likely datable age range seeing an older guy. It can be a subconscious threat. Many girls your age will likely think it's weird (imo) because they're use to being around people within a year or two all through school. The idea of a 27 year old can seem very old. I think once people get away from being mainly surrounded by their peers in school that mentality usually chances. A guy that's 27 will likely have a more refined mentality than an 18 year old if that's important to you. Of course I would wait a week if you live in a state where that's illegal and not in a country where 16 is legal like Canada.2
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At first you might get some funny looks, people will judge your relationship, talk behind your back, start rumors, and so many more cruel things. It sucks, but that's the way it is. I have known couples with 10-15 year age gaps, and they have insured all of those things. As for being more active,(I'm assuming you're still in high school), I wouldn't recommend it. It's common knowledge that girls are MEAN. If someone finds out, especially someone who doesn't like you, finds out you're sleepin with a man nearly 10 years older than you, you could have to endure HORRIBLE things. Possibly even similar rumors/ name calling in cyber bully. Just make sure that you stay safe, know the ricks, and mentally prepare yourself for that judgement. Even though a lot of these affects seem negative, do whatever makes YOU happy. Remember those couples I mentioned earlier? Even though it was hard at first, they got through it. They are STILL together, and they are happier then the have been in a long time. Just remember that age is nothing but a number, although some people don't see it that way. Good luck! Do whatever you think is right for you!😊0