I can never catch a break, and it really makes me mad.
There's always something keeping thing from moving forward.
"I've got a boyfriend", "I'm talking to somebody", "I'm not interested in a relationship right now", "I just want to stay single right now", "If I didn't have a boyfriend I'd totally date you", why can't things be more straightforward? If a girl isn't interested, WHY give me her number? WHY put me through false hope?
I'm not ugly, women tell me I'm cute/hot/whatever.
Women flirt with me A LOT, but when I try and establish something it crumbles. I'm not an @sshole (but can be a real smartass sometimes) and am pretty funny and likable. Every time I get a girl's number, it's OK for a while, then they quit talking to me.
It's like with this last girl, her ugly douche boyfriend cheated on her and told her to move out, and yet she clings to him like she'll never let him go. And I have nothing. Maybe if I was some ugly, fat, redneck douchebag I'd get a girl. *shrugs*
I've even hung out with girls on multiple occasions and had people think that we were together, which p*sses me off because we're not (one being my friend's wife, when HE was there too).
All my chick-friends seem to think I should be able to get some hottie, but I don't see it.
Can someone please tell me what the hell is wrong with me?
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Here is another answer too, eventhough I'm in your situation as well too, I don't know if I can offer good advice, but this one guy told me this and he agrees with me and you that girls have it easier, here is what he said:
There's a great quote that gets to the heart of this question. "A woman can go to the bar, and if she really wants to, can leave with a man. A guy can go to many bars, and there's no guarantee he'll leave with a woman."
I'd certainly say it's harder for a guy to get a girl than the other way around. Most women, from the time they were around 14 or so, have been getting attention from males. Guys, on the other hand, generally don't have a cache of women to choose from.
That's not to say it's any easier for women; just because they have more options doesn't mean any of the guys available to them are really what they are looking for. On the contrary, the guys who are available to them are the guys who otherwise haven't found a girl yet; all else being equal, they're probably from the less-desirable side of the scale. Guys, on the other hand, will often be happy with just about any girl they can find.
In the end, guys have to look harder to find a girl, but once they've found one they're easier to please. Girls don't have to look very hard to find a guy, in reality they don't actually literally have to find a guy, it just happens, girls are takers and choosers, guys go after what they want, yes there is a good and bad side to it, but being a taker and chooser is better because you have more options, you get to control the outcome situations more often, but they'll have to wait for some time to get a good guy. But still, even if it is a great, good, long-term serious committed relationship, the guy was the one that initiated it, did all or most of the work in order to get the girl to be in a relationship with him.
Overall, even if it is a serious, committed, long-term relationship, a great one, or just a hook-up, one-night stand, casual sex, etc. Girls have it entirely easier initially, us guys have to do all or most of the work in order to anything with or from a girl.
Thats why I think women have it easier.1