So, I've met this guy online. We instantly hit it off. After couple of days of chatting, he came over for a drink. We spent the night talking and having fun. I was not sure if he likes me pysically. But than sex happened. :) Which was great. He knew what he was doing, occassionally asked if I like this and that. He also seemed pleased with my performance. :) Afterwards he suggested we shower together (which i never did before). We didn't cuddle. We just took a nap and than he had to go. I escorted him out and simply said "bye, c ya". :) Without kissing or hugging. It felt casual and I really liked the sex.
After couple of hours we exchaned couple casual texts. In the evening I told him I had a good time, he replied he did too. Than I asked him if he would come over for a drink next day and he never replied. Complete silence since than.
I only wanted to continue having casual sexual relationship. But now i dont know what is going on with him for not replying? Did he had sex with me and maybe he didn't find me attractive? (I'm on the chubby side) Or he maybe got frightened as he maybe thinks i want something more serious?
PS: i dont want anything else as I am fresh out of longterm relationship and I am not ready currently to emotionally commit again.
I decided to let it go. It was a nice experience and I will not pursue any further contact with this person as my interest for him also dropped (due to overthinking "what to do").
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the guy pursued you, worked on you, and got what he wanted. now he is moving on because, to him, it is a game. even in this "enlightened age" of casual sex, many men do not want to date women who are easy. You just got out of a long term relationship and I can tell you are hurt by it, so you do not want anything serious. That tells me that there is something wrong with how you relate to guys (I am not saying the break up is all your fault). It is usually not about looks or a little weight - it is about the person. A mature man will come back to a woman he finds interesting and fun, in and out of the sack. Any two people can have good sex, regardless of age or looks. But good sex is not enough to interest this man back. he is about the hunt and conquest. After that, he moves on. Of course, he may not be single.2