I'm 16 sometimes I don't date because I want to focus only on myself and just be me and now I'm dating a guy that's two busy and now I'm thinking about leaving I'm hurting bad because I don't like getting hurt at all
i read that in the bible it says save your heart for your husband because whatever hurts you or whatever happens in your life effects the way you will act and think
and that's why I don't get in relationships a lot
so what do you older people think
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Understanding yourself helps you answer the question "What kind of guy do I want?". Your being able to answer this question is crucial when it comes to dating. A useful thing to remember here is, birds of a feather are attracted to, and stay together in the long run. If you're a quiet girl who enjoys quietness, for example, it is better for you to find a quiet guy. High compatiblity is the key to good relationships. Not knowing what kind of guy you want is like wandering/driving around blindfolded.
On your remark about how the past affects the future. It is true that many people carry emotional bagges on their back, affecting their future relationships. e.g. many players have been abused by someone before, from their parents to past boy/girlfriends, this result in a fear of real intimacy and staying away from a serious relationship.
This is one reason why you should not go lightly into relationships just because of, say, you're lonely, or, you can't stand the possibility of being laughed at when others already have dozens of boyfriends (meaning you succumb to peer pressure). The right reason to get into a relationship is, you find someone highly compatible to you, and you like him (vice versa)!0