I think people can change if they want to within reason, but trying to change who he is forcefully would never work, in fact telling him he need to straight out if off putting and something I experienced myself. It made me feel bad since I thought she loved me for who I was, tho I saw what she was seeing within reason and did try, but she wasn't willing to do the same for me. In the end she was trying to change everything about me, when I put my foot down it was over not to long after that.
What you want is something I can understand, it not unreasonable to want a monogamous relationship. Perhaps if he cares enough about somebody someday and wants to change he might be able to manage it. There is no way to know if that person can be you all you can do is give him a reason to feel that way and become important to him, if you can't though it is time to move one and find someone who wants the same thing out of a relationship as you.
Most Helpful Opinions
No need to apologize. Some guys really are just horndogs. As for this guy, and most guys, their objective is to get a girl in bed. Sad but true. So if you really want a guy, keep sex from him for as long as possible. If you give it up to easily, especially to a guy who is only looking for sex (I don't recommend you date someone like that), he's going to hit you and quit you. So keep it locked up and make him earn you. Once a guy has put in a lot of time, money, commitment, and effort for a girl, it becomes much harder for them to just drop you since it was so much trouble to get you in the first place. So when you do finally have sex, they'll think it's crazy to drop you since it was so hard to get you. They'll look at you like a real accomplishment that they worked towards, rather than just some bimbo who gave it up to easily.
What Guys Said
Whats a 'fuckboy'? Also if you want a relationship then tell him that and see how he responds. As for changing him, no you cannot change a person plain and simple. They choose to change they cannot be forced and to attempt to would only result in failure on your part and resentment on his.
This makes zero sense to me
You call him a fuckboy but you like him?
He's the commitment type but only wants to hook up.
You can't change people, they have to do it themselves. Women really need to get out of this mindsetYou need to change your attitude. All you're doing is shaming male nature by calling him a fuckboy; You're an immature person.
fuck a fuckboy and leave em. that's all they are good for.
ffs same man you're in college ! you can find enough guys if you just get to know people and build some connections.if he likes to fuck around at the moment, you´ll just hurt yourself trying to change him... i can´t recommend it.
No, you cannot change someone. Girls thinking they can change guys is a cliche for a reason. Don't become a cliche.
If he a fuckboy, you dont want him. Once a fuckboy, always a fuckboy...
dumb question but what exactly is a fuckboy?
is it synonymous with player or something?Side note*. Using the term fuckboy is going to attract a lot of dumb opinions
NO YOU CAN'T CHANGE PEOPLE
that is so INCREDIBLY SELFISH, ABUSIVE, AND goes against the principles of psychology
Learn more
Most Helpful Opinions