This girl and I have known each other for close to 3 weeks. We had met online. From the get-go, we fell for each other's personality. As we started asking each other out, we got less stressed and nervous. We've gone out twice now (don't judge the frequency haha, we were comfortable with this).
We're still pretty nervous over the idea of when we would start holding hands. She said "next time" when I first asked her 2 weeks ago on our first meet-up. But yet it seems like a very major thing when I innocently asked "When's our zeroth anniversary" and she answered "When we start holding hands :p". So it's like... handholding = gf?
So the question now is, when should I ask her to be my girlfriend officially? Should I wait until we started behaving like a couple (e. g. flirting, PDA) before I pop the question? I'm really confused about how to put her at ease and take a step forward..
- Label before becoming a couple!Vote A
- Behaving like a couple before the label!Vote B
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Don't label anything, let her come to you.
As her attraction grows she's gonna become more and more affectionate.
You're going too fast. At least on two occasions she showed you that you're going too fast, which also means she isn't yet as attracted to you as you are to her. (First when you asked about holding hands, then second when you talked about the zeroth anniversary).
This is not good man. If you keep trying to push things logically this way, she'll soon tell you directly that this is indeed "going too fast" and that she wants to take things slow.
If you really want to be the one to label the relation first, wait about until de 20th date to try and do so.1
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