I broke up with my boyfriend recently and I thought I was fine.. I mean I started seeing different people etc. But then one day I saw him at this party with his ex and they were pretty close. But when he saw me he didn't look so happy and all of a suddenhe backed away from her. But sinse then I simply can't stop thinking about him. What should I do?
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Having lingering feelings for someone is an extremely human trait. More so, it means you actually have heart. Those feelings don't just shut off and they weren't meant to. Imagine having a fight with your partner, so you walk away and shut off all the love you felt for him instantly. There would be no relationships. So the fact that you still feel that way is your mind telling you that you cared. Realize that you are grieving the death of your relationship, regardless of who broke up with whom. It's going to hurt. I like to view it as a heart operation. You grew this heart for someone and now you just had your heart removed so you feel empty. Now it's time to get a new heart with someone else. And this new heart is going to be even stronger from all the experiences you had from before. Don't be sad, be happy that you had a chance to know them and that you learned so much about relationships and yourself. Give it time and try to really focus on your own things. Pick a project and start working towards that. After me and my girlfriend broke up, I focused on school and spending quality time with my family (I live far from home so I had to make the effort to visit). You're not alone and make sure you surround yourself with lots of friends and support.1