My boyfriend (guy) is 15 and I'm 16 (girl) so I slapped him and he ran to his house (right across from mine) in tears, I ran after him but he's in his house and he locked the door and I hear him crying and all I want to do is cuddle with him and tell him every thing is gonna be ok, I love this guy very much, will he ever forgive me?
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First, domestic abuse is an extremely serious thing. And it is more common for girls to do it against guys than the media likes to admit. Right now you are on the third stage of the cycle of abuse. The first is Tension Building where the breakdown of communication intensifies while the victim becomes fearful and feels the need to placate the abuser. Then the second, Incident, takes places ranging from verbal and emotional to sexual or physical abuse. This is also where the true anger, blaming, arguing, with the threats and intimidation take place. Right now you are on the third stage which is Reconciliation. The abuser apologizes, gives excuses, blames the victim, denies the abuse occurred, or says that it wasn't as bad as the victim claims. This is the worst stage to be in because it takes both the abuser and the victim to reach an understanding of the incident to move on to the final stage Calm. While you and your boyfriend are healing, you have to give him plenty of space, and make sure he knows that you are giving him his space until he's ready to approach you. You betrayed is feelings and trust when you struck him, so be empathetic to his situation. Remember, if he's going to forgive you, that's completely on him now. As long as you, when he's ready to talk, can assure him that you are sincerely sorry and promise never to do it again (and mean that) then you have a good shot at him forgiving you. People aren't perfect and as long as we can recognize that, people always work together. I'm not going to condemn you for striking your boyfriend, you're already doing that to yourself. But I highly encourage you to find other means of effectively communicating with your boyfriend other than hitting him. I suggest you learn a few calming techniques so when this stress crops up in the future, you won't be so quick to violence and a repeat. This is a terrible situation, but it would be worse if it were to happen again, as you've already laid a blow to his trust in you and make him question the relationship.0