I, admittedly, am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. I have not so much as heard his voice since this past summer but I still can't get him out of my head or my heart. I get asked out on dates frequently and I go on them but while I'm sitting across the table from the man I feel so plastic. What I mean to say is that I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel like I am being myself and I dread the date continuing for longer than forty-five minutes. I respect the guys that I have gone out with but they have never gotten the "real me" because I am always lost in space, wondering when the dinner will finally be over. All of my friends tell me that I need a new man or new men to get over my ex, but so far new men are making me think of him even more! Plus, I would never get involved with someone to simply feel better about myself! That is very wrong, very fake and it's, simply put, "not me".
Has anyone ever felt what I'm describing here? How did you get through it?
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I've been there and trust me, it takes a very long time to fully get over him.
All through highschool and college, I dated only one guy. We were together for over 8 years before he decided that he wanted to break up and date other people. It's been 2 years since then and a part of me is still completely in love with him and want him back.
I was just like you, I went out of dates, flirted with guys at bars, but it wasn't really me. It almost felt like I was watching a clone of myself doing these things. I wasn't having fun, my dates weren't having fun. But recently, I met a really nice guy that I really like and since I started dating him, I've been able to move on.
Trust me, you will get over this. You just need the right guy to pull you out of this slump.
Best of luck1