Our dates have been so amazing and he has introduced me to some of his best friends and, well its been great! I really started liking him... but this past Sunday he was drunk and said, "I dont think my family would approve of you". Then not too long after went to sleep. I brought it up next day and he said he didn't even remember saying that and he probably was mainly talking about his mom...
He lives an hour away and we only see eachother once a week. I brought it up tonight via text and told him I was concerned with his comment about how he didn't think his family would approve... he played it off and was like I said I am sorry twice... and I said well have a good trip (he is going out of town for this week) and we will talk later. He then was like you are being passive aggressive by threatening to give me the silent treatment... what are we not going to talk for four days? I said I am going to drop it because I dont like being upset or harping on stuff...
We just said goodnight... is this doomed?
- See where is goes, there is still a chance it may workVote A
- Move on.. he is letting me know he doesn't think this will be seriousVote B
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First of all take nothing at face value of what someone says when they're drunk. People think that being drunk and saying things shows true inner feelings? No, it doesn't. A lot of drama happens when people get drunk and they say things that are stupid. Whether they think it's true or not, the fact remains that he doesn't even *know* for sure about much, he just decided to say something stupid while being drunk.
You've given him many outs to come clean with it and talk about why he would have said that, and so far he's denied it would be a problem, and at best, thinks his mom might have an issue. Even then, this is his assumption, and if he had some bad experiences in the past - it's still the past and you weren't even in the picture then.
I voted to see how it goes because I think one mistake of saying something stupid should be a relationship killer - especially something like that. And besides, worst case scenario is he's right - you meet the mother and she doesn't approve. Big deal. Trust me when I say there is always a work-around in relationships when you know you're with the right guy and things are going well. I married a guy whose mom hates me for being white of all the stupid things, and before me, she made excuses why she hated every woman he was ever dating. You sort of learn to live with a juggernaut MIL in your life who is only jealous that you are living the life that she wished she had, plus the fact you are being favoured now by her darling son, who she thought would always put her first in life. You just carry on and be happy with your guy and everyone's attempt at making you both unhappy will be wasted efforts. Just like bullying, if you ignore it, they eventually will get bored of picking on you and realize it's not working.0