I'm having no luck on OkCupid and I've had it for a while. I message girls and say hi and I also message them and talk about their profile but nobody ever answers. I don't get it. What else do I do? Can someone help me 1 on 1 with this problem😕
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In my experience it really isn't a whole lot different than real life, the only exception being it's hard to make playful teases because text doesn't convey tone or body language. Make an observation, make a joke, ask her a question and be interested in her, share a bit about yourself but don't brag.
I've had the most success with sending a message of 6-8 sentences split in to two short paragraphs. Ask her a question about something, make a funny or interesting comment, and share something about yourself related to that topic (doesn't have to be in that order). Do that for one thing in her profile, and one thing that isn't in her profile that you'd like to know about her.
If she replies, asks you some questions, and share's some things not in her profile with you, then that's a good sign. Send 2-4 message each and then give her your number and tell her to call you (if she gives you hers and says she wants you to call her, that's fine). Call her, chat for 10 minutes or so, then tell her you have to go but you'd like to meet her for a date and schedule a specific place, date, and time to meet.
Also, I've had the most success messaging women while they are offline, and sending those 2-4 messages each back and forth over the course of 2-3 days. Attraction builds when women have to wait and think about you. Women need time to think about you and decide they like and are comfortable meeting you. A woman can develop that certainty she wants to see you in just a few minutes in person, but online she can't hear your voice or see your body language so it will take much longer to make her want to take the risk to meet you so don't ask too soon.0