This is been bothering me and I don't know how to come in terms with this. First of all he's my friend/coworker. We're 20 years old. He has had a crush on me since last year. We've worked together, I usually drop him home since he doesn't drive and we've been very good pals. Then time passes and we tend to get very touchy feely and start flirting with each other. He comes up to me asks me questions we talk we flirt etc. Then finally when I dropped him home he kisses me. Note I was leaning in to just hug him but he took hold of my chin and kissed me. So then something happened and it was very embarrassing. he gave me his house number to call him. OK next day I did call him and I think his sister picked up and I asked for Brandon, that's his name and I asked if he wanted to hang but he couldn't so I'm like ok. Then he texts me to apologize and he wanted to explain his situation. So I met up with him and he told me he wasn't into a serious relationship and I was cool with it me neither but then he says he's with a girl. I Was pissed and asked is he still seeing her and he said yes. My friend even told me she saw a hickey on his neck.
He still says hi to me he still asks how I am like nothing happened I don't know what to do or what to feel. I don't want to stop a friendship. I really like him but I've been deceived and he can't expect me to get over that. What do you think? Should I still go after him or ignore him or try to forget this and be friends? I really like him a lot.
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Find out how he feels and what he is willing to do.0
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... But then he says he's with a girl...
The sticky situation at hand, @gamerchick44, is this is putting a sour ball in my mouth because I feel at Work, on the clock, he wants a bit of his sweet cake and eat it Two but After Hours, for he knows it would be Cheating... He says he's with a girl.
Don't wear your poor vulnerable heart on your sleeve for someone who probably won't be going anywhere too soon. Even if he does merely send messages on your cell and helpful hints on the job with 'We talk we flirt etc., he is still hooked at the hip with another.
Be civil, be nonchalant but not overly time friendly. Don't lead him on to make him think you care more than you do because it will just end up a yo yo and a No Go and a Triangle Threesome where you are always at the top, looking down, from side to side, at the both of them.
Good luck. xx0
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