I don't have any female friends. I'm 18, and graduated high school and will go to CSUEB in the fall. I've talked to chicks before, but we're more acquaintances. when I ask them to hang, I say "wanna hang out sometime in the summer" or you free anytime? I'm not looking for a date, just a mere hangout (as a final way of seeing them before college). everytime I saw a girl, she had a clique that she didn't separate from, had a boyfriend, or was busy with schoolwork. in their free time, they hang with their girlfriends in part of their cliques. I don't know what I do wrong. I'm nice and do talk to everyone (I'm shy, but won't shut up around a friend/nice person). these girls would also give me weird looks if I asked to meet their friends. I guess hs cliques affected my ability to make friends in high school (this did apply to guys). I just think that there are places and activities to go to and do with girls, unlike guys (go to a cupcake shop/Beyonce concert). I met a girl in beginning of year, but didn't really notice her til April. and I asked her to hang in June, and she was initially open to it, but plans didn't fall through. I have a pretty hard time making friends with girls AND guys. is being nice a problem? do nice guys finish last? if I can't even make friends (male OR female), how'd I go out with a social circle (want it to be guys AND girls), or get a frat formal date? my disability to make friends (I'm autistic) has made me depressed and my grades tanked. I have no money for a therapist. I find it best to make friends in an open environment, but don't get invited to parties. does college host social mixers? especially commuter campuses? I have a social circle of 5 guys and 1 girl, but we don't hang much due to summer classes/jobs/college prep. what can I do? (don't say be more social or be nice).
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Hopefully once you start college, you'll meet new people and become friends. I met quite a bit at uni, both male and females. And they are all quite different, not clique-y at all.
I prefer surrounding myself with positive people, so being nice and respectful is a must. I honestly met new friends during class, either sitting near someone or pairing up for group assignments. There are a lot of activities and events on campus, too, which helped. I do believe there were mixers as well. :) I am shy and suffer from anxiety (I have even fainted at school a few times).
I would enjoy your time at college! I hope you have fun and meet positive new people and/or a girlfriend. :)1