If you check my other questions, it's clear I'm concerned a lot about my romantic prospects, or lackthereof. But recently I've been wondering something else about this. I have been tossing around the idea of starting to work out so I don't look like a 4/10 blob, but wondering if I'm doomed regardless
Basically, I have had anxiety and occasional depression for as long as I can remember and while I am getting help with meds and support I still have episodes every now and then and i know they will never go away completely. And literally everything I've seen and heard on and offline says that women DESPISE insecurity. Like any sign of not having total confidence is repulsive to them. So my concern is that even if I got in shape, found an effective way to clear my face up, and got overy my approach anxiety, it wouldn't matter because the second a girl I was getting close to saw one of my episodes of depression, anxiety, and self doubt, which would inevitably happen, she would run like hell because I showed insecurity. This would mean I'd be doomed to never find a girl who was attracted to me and willing to give me a chance.
So my question is, am I over thinking this, or am I figuratively and never literally screwed?
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I don't think it's repulsive for men to show weakness, it's human. And a woman that runs the other way isn't worth it, especially if she relies on you for emotional support. This double standard in society I hate because men have emotions too and they shouldn't be expected to hide them "because it's weak". And they shouldn't be expected to deal with someone else's emotional burdens on top of that. So I don't think that you being a human being with feelings and needing some extra support because you're trying to overcome depression and anxiety shouldn't be a an issue. The woman you want to keep will stay by your side, and give you love and support; and the rest don't matter0