I met a guy 2 weeks ago and we hit it off. We went out twice and texted everyday. He is divorced with 3 kids. I asked him if he was ready for a relationship, but he assured me since he was single for 5 years. He asked me all the questions that made me feel that he was looking for something serious. On our second date we had our first kiss and it was great! He kept texting me that I was amazing, he couldn't wait to see me again and that he really liked me.
This weekend he has his kids and hast texted me.
Then I get this message, "Hi sorry been busy, I don't think we are good for each other, We can b friends if u like."
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, i think in this instance he is attached to his kids mother
sometimes they can't let go but why state that he is ready for dating
that right there seems to be a lie and immature of him but you can't
let this bring you down i know it's easier said than done i hope you
can move on but don't let this bring you down cause you know there
is other guys who would date you in heart beat ,3
Most Helpful Girl
1) guessing his ex made a pass at him, they may even have a date planned (or so he thinks)
2) there's no TIME lapse mentioned between post-kiss last text & the Have the kids text, so IF that was enough time to meet someone new that either he or his little zipper pest likes better...
What to do?
a) visiting fathers are sitting ducks, especially if they were dumped = you'll not ever have an easy to plan calendar with such sorts, even when those kids have jobs soooo if you are one that can chill in the face of questionable actions such as this and can roll with the waves to come, then KEEP him as a friend or whatever he
b) if such questionable actions take the joy out of this relationship and creates anxiety, then maybe put him in a lesser friendship role, like penpal, facebook, etc. only and take the hint to find another BF/lover substitute1