I've been out with this guy a few times. The last time we were together he met my friends. He will ask me out regularly, but I don't know if he likes me or not. He's pretty quiet and he always leaves all the planning up to me for the dates. He doesn't text me everyday to ask how I am. I don't know we"ve only gone out 4 times maybe I am expecting too much too soon? There also has not been a talk about what we are.
Most Helpful Guy
"IS it weird that he only texts me every couple of days?"
^no... i believe reason he's doin it, is in order to not make u believe he's clingy...
"He will ask me out regularly, but I don't know if he likes me or not. "
^if he's actually askin u out... i don't see y he wouldn't...
"He's pretty quiet and he always leaves all the planning up to me for the dates."
^possibly this means he'd go everywhere wid u... so he leaves it to u to arrange for da dates...
"I don't know we"ve only gone out 4 times maybe I am expecting too much too soon? There also has not been a talk about what we are."
^it's still early generally about this "wot we r" talk... so everything's ok till now in my opinion... and i xplained above y he doesn't text much0
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Most Helpful Girl
Yes you're expecting a bit too much in terms of texting. A lot of people don't want to text every day because it's kind of time consuming. Some people also think it's pointless to just ask how you're doing every single day, since most likely you'll only answer "fine, you?" and then the conversation will lead nowhere.
Next time you go out, you should say something like "hey, it would be nice if you didn't leave all the planning to me all the time, I want you to plan a little too". Then you could also ask him what he thinks you are. If you want to be a couple, tell him. There's nothing wrong with being straightforward. And since he's shy, it might push him out of his shell a bit. If you tiptoe around him he'll never get the guts to say anything himself, so it seems like you'll have to encourage him. Yes you would be cornering him just a little bit but that's good! Don't let him get too comfortable, raise the heat a little, otherwise you'll be the one stuck doing all the work for all eternity, lol.0