So went on a date with a very lovely guy yesterday. He picked me up, drove to amsterdam where we went picknicking, got on a paddle boat (or pedalo?), went to a cafe to go pooling and eventually had dinner.
He payed for everything even though I repeatedly handed him money, he opened doors for me, gave me compliments etc. At the end of the night he drove me home and we kissed.
So to reflect on the date it was very nice, he was lovely but there were no sparks. I don't have feelings like that for him (yet). However, he did ask me on a second date and it felt bad to say no so I agreed. Do you guys think I should tell him I'm not feeling it or give it another shot and see how it goes?
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You don't need, or some would say, that you shouldn't judge your relationship with someone based off one solitary experience. The rule of thumb typically is that you have three dates before having to decide if you want to 'make it official' or not. He got a strike in your books on the first date. If I were you, I'd keep an open mind and give it another go. If there is nothing the second time around, then there might be nothing going on there.
Ignore the other guys giving you shit that you're turning down a nice, romantic guy. Romance doesn't make a relationship, its how you connect on a personal and intimate level. If the connection isn't flowing both ways, it isn't flowing the right way.0