When browsing online dating profiles and talking to people, it seems almost mandatory that everyone loves "enjoying a glass of wine", to the point that when I dinner date I always presume they would want to drink, and they always say yes. Personally I'm not a big fan of alcohol; I drink on work occasions or other social gatherings where it is expected, but in general I just find it really annoying since it kind of just handicaps my senses. Sure you get a bit more social, but only a tidbit and the after effects just aren't worth it to me (I have no problems being social without drinking).
However, not enjoying alcohol seems like a taboo in western culture, so much that even mentioning you don't like it is almost a social stigma. I would love to date without drinking because anything edible, sensual or sexual is just dulled down to nothing for me - I want to feel, taste and hear without that veil of wine.
To be clear, I'm not talking about a lot of alcohol, but even one glass is enough to noticeably dull my sense of taste and physical sensation, and that just sucks (need quite a lot more before my head start spinning, though ;)). Am I alone here? If you were to date someone and they didn't want to drink, how would you react?
- Yes: When we go for dinner we should both be drinkingVote A
- Yes: When we go for dinner I want to drink but I don't mind the other abstainingVote B
- No: When we go for dinner no-one should drink alcoholVote C
- No: When we go for dinner I don't drink, but I don't care if the other one doesVote D
Most Helpful Girl
i personally wouldn't want to drink on a first date. i'd want the first impression to be not effected by alcohol or anything like that. i think that's very important.. if i get a little tipsy on a first date i'd probably be having a great time, but i wouldn't be able to tell if it was the alcohol making me have a good time, or just legitimately having a good time. i think thats sort of silly. i wouldn't mind if my date drank. i would sort of prefer not, but i'm not going to put up a fight about it.0
Most Helpful Guy
Personally I only drink... sigh... it's more so a requirement than anything really but I suppose it is socially expected to drink or else you are not gonna get very far connection wise.
My dad hated drinking , but he has to because everyone in the business circle does.
God some days I wish there are more clean life-stylers out there.0