Is it a good idea to move out with your boyfriend? Im planning on doing it in a few weeks. What was your experience? Was it successful?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, lot things can happen when you take up living with someone all you can do is trial basis and see how things go , I wish you well i do know things can be hard at times2
Most Helpful Girl
If you are constantly with each other all the time and spending the night at each other's place, then of course, it's best to move in and save yourself paying rent on another place. But you should establish some house rules. A lot of girls who have no experience living with a guy move in and find that a lot of things change right after. For example, if he still goes out all night with his guy friends and doesn't call. Or if you want friends over and he doesn't want people in the house. Using each other's things. Having privacy boundaries set. Sharing responsibilities around the house. Pooling your money together on things your need to buy.
All these things should sort of be set between you both because if you bumble along and make rules as you go, you'll find one or both of you will become resentful wondering why you did it in the first place.
I don't know your situation, but in my experience two guys went from living with their mommies to living with me. So basically I was the one picking up their underwear, serving them chocolate milk (not even kidding), cooking, doing dishes, and all the while, they sat around claiming they needed to relax. I learned after the first guy that I need to establish some fairness in the house as I too worked a full time job. If this sounds like you, you'll have to figure this out or you really will become angry that over time things you didn't agree on became issues, and if you let them fester, he'll wonder why they are suddenly problems when to him they weren't all along.
Another thing: get tenants insurance. You just never know with what kind of friends he has or what will happen to your things should something miserable happen in the house.
Offer to do a monthly budget together. Create an Excel document and save receipts for everything and each money tally up where both of you are spending your money. I implore you to do this because when new couples move in, sure enough someone will say, "Holy shit what happened to that hundred bucks I just gave you?" And you'll be like, "I went to the store. Duh.." Toilet paper and steaks cost a lot of money and in one visit to the grocery store, a hundred dollars could be gone fast. Save it before the argument starts and keep track of how you both spend your money together so that if he does snap and accuse you of overspending you can show him proof of your budget-keeping and the receipts you keep. It will be a wake up call for any partner not aware of where the money goes.3