she's not really my girlfriend, but we've been hooking up for a few months now and everything is good. but lately i just have no desire to have sex with her or spend any time with her. she loves me and i think that is the problem. she loves me and i dont love her back, at all. after we have sex she wants to cuddle and i really dont want to get into those feelings.
i care for her, i dont want to hurt her and would destroy anyone who hurts her. but i just can't be with her i have no interest in what she has to say, how her day went, what she is doing, nothing. i dont even wanna have sex with her, she's not my type physically at all. at all. i dont know how i got in so deep. what do i do?
Most Helpful Girl
Show this girl some respect and walk away. You've simply been using her for sex all this time. You need to learn that guys & gals are wired differently. Vaginas are intrinsically connected to women's hearts. It was inevitable that she was gonna love you.
Ironically, the reason you DON'T really care about her in that way is because she gave you sex for free (meaning without the exclusive relationship commitment) to begin with. She didn't respect herself nor her body, and therefore you don't really respect her either. And guys don't love girls they don't respect.
Just explain to her that you can't keep doing this to her because in the long run it's not a good thing for either one of you. She will be hurt, there might even be tears, but deal with it. Rip off that band-aid and let it sting for a bit. Then keep your distance for a while at least, maybe permanently. Give her time to get over you. Providing continued exposure to you will only slow, if not stop the process of her moving on.3
Most Helpful Guy
This is the usual result of friends with benefits. "Please allow me to use you and have no regard for your feelings because I would like to have an ejaculation inside your vagina. When you fall in love with me, I'll remind you that we said friends with benefits so I won't need to feel guilty and I can blame you." You say that you care but, if you really cared, you would not have put her in this position.4