I accused him of using me for sex?

[ciciking22]

We had sex on Friday night I said I was worried he was never going to talk to me again he said not to worry and kissed me goodbye then on Saturday I texted him to give him my new number and he ramg me and we were having a laugh saying he was coming out later he did with his older nephew who is also an adult... I went in and asked him to ring me later but I missed his calls and I rang him on Sunday and then on Monday I kind of got annoyed and accused him of using me and called him names and he called me an ejject and idiot and said just because he had sex with me doesn't mean he love me hung up the phone on him and yesterday I texted to say sorry and he rang we chatted and was talking I had a free house and said he come out but I was in my mama

do you think he actually likes me? He has told me about some of his family and things about him..

[Paris13]

Between the Texting and Ringing and the 'I missed his calls,' and on top of all this hit and miss here, dear, You calling him inexcusable names to top the not so sweet cake, I think it deals with more than just 'Sex 'because if t Did, he would not even bother to tell you about 'Some of his family and things about him' and would only contact you if he Wanted That sort of fling thing. He even included you with his 'Older nephew' ordeal which turned into this Big Deal it seems.
I also see without it having to be etched in cold stone, that he likes you unconditionally because any other newbie guy would Never Have... Text nor called again.
Go slow with his flow and nurse and nurture something special that may be starting. He may not be keen right now into being in a Real Relationship and with This, if you see it might be so, play your own hand of cards a bit differently by Not always being available for fun on a Friday nite unless it is painting the town red, from time to time, and not just cuddling in bed.
Good luck. xx

[ciciking22]

I'm not sure I'm so confused

[Paris13]

@ciciking22 spend some more time hanging out but be this apple way at the top of the tree to find out if he is just grabbing to bite or if he likes to hold you in his hand and admire a real beauty he can find just too as a delight.. play hard to get. lol:)) xxoo

[ciciking22]

haven't heard from him so its done

[Paris13]

Okay, well, more in store from what you have written.. He is Either going to call you when he feels like it, which NOW has a sour ball in my mouth because he is Not so Koshore now. Or he will Not call again, so could go now either way... Move on and focus on you and let this be a little lesson to learn when you get burned. x

[ciciking22]

well the law can deal with him now

[Paris13]

Good an d with This, you can contend with your lucky life without him.:)) xxoo

[NearlyNapping]

It sounds like the whole things got awkward. Maybe that turned him away.

It also sounds like he was after casual sex. Not necessarily a one night stand, but not looking for some kid of committed relationship either.

As far as using you. Unless he was using some kind of deception, he wasn't using you. He wanted sex. You wanted sex. You two had sex. If there was no intentional deception, he wasn't using you. If you assumed something more, without any reason to assume that, then it he wasn't using you.

[ciciking22]

we were talking last night and i asked him to come out today he said he couldnt

he was going to come to my house last night because it was free

[NearlyNapping]

It's really hard to guess. There seems to be mixed signals. Plus it got awkward and kind of botched. One thing that stands out though was bringing his nephew. That's not a one-night-stand scenario.

If there is something there, maybe try for a fresh start. See how it goes from there. Of course I'm assuming that you WANT something more to be there, which is what it sounds like.

[ciciking22]

yea course i do.. doubt he is interested he was saying something on the phone to me last night about wanting ride the lumps off me

[NearlyNapping]

Well that's sex. I don't know. There is plenty of room between one-night-stand and full out relationship. He might be somewhere in the middle. Maybe he wants friends with benefits or a fuck buddy.

[ciciking22]

What do I do?

[NearlyNapping]

This is really hurting you isn't it? Reading the other comments, some think it was just sex, others think he's into you. You are seeing both and don't know who's right.

I don't know the answer. There is a lot between a one-night stand and a full out relationship. He can still be nice and treat you well no matter what. Even if he just wants sex, doesn't mean he's an asshole. He can still treat you nice, and mean it. That's what makes it hard to know what his intentions are.

Your question started out saying you had sex on Friday. How long did you know him before that? Did you just meet him that day?

Anyway, you obviously want something more with him. So you need to find out somehow.

"just because he had sex with me doesn't mean he love me"

OK, he was reacting to what you said. Maybe he was just saying it in anger. But I think the truth came out here. It was just sex. Maybe he likes you, but for now it was just sex. Maybe it's open for something more in the future.

[NearlyNapping]

The only way to find out is if he comes right out and says what he's after - you can always directly ask him.

If you don't directly ask him, maybe just see what happens in the future. See how it goes. Don't have sex though. You have to know if there is something more. If he only wants sex, he'll break it off pretty fast. If he wants to go out and do things, have some fun, then maybe something can grow out of it. If you just met this guy, I’d slow way down, and don’t expect too much too soon.

I'll be honest. I'm being more optimistic than what I really think. I don't think there is anything there except sex. I'm being optimistic because some of the other comments think there is more. They might be right and I might be wrong.

By the way. Is this guy older than you? How much older?

[ciciking22]

Only 28

[NearlyNapping]

How long have you known him?
How long did you know him before you had sex?
How many times have you had sex with him?

[ciciking22]

Just once I had sex with him I said to him o was worried he wasn't going to speak to me again he was like don't be worrying and gave. Me a kiss goodnight and when I got my new phone and number he rang me

[ciciking22]

I just blocked him on my phone

[NearlyNapping]

The only way to find out is to spend more time with him and DO NOT HAVE SEX. Don't do it, at all. Then see if he disappears.

[PiuBelloAmante]

you are wrong for accusing him of such things! and the response he gave you was justified in my opinion
As long as the apology was genuine and he you both take a small break from sex but keep contact everything will be good
he likes you no doubt

[ciciking22]

we were talking last night and i asked him to come out today he said he couldnt

he was going to come to my house last night because it was free

[PiuBelloAmante]

alright it sounds like things sorted themselves out, next time just watch what you say, i think it was a bit offensive to say he was using you after he simply didn't answer a few phone calls

good luck

[ciciking22]

i know :(

im questioning everything...

he said he would forgive if i was that into him

he said said again he wanted to ride the lumps off me?

[ciciking22]

im afraid i fucked it up

[PiuBelloAmante]

What does ride the lumps off even mean lol?

[ciciking22]

have sex?

did i fuck it up i haven't heard from him and dont want to be the one chasing him

[PiuBelloAmante]

its ok if he wants sex lol, he likes you its to be expected just let him know you aren't in the mood or something, have sex with him when you are both ready to go

[ciciking22]

i haven't heard from him today :( so i fucked it up

we had sex last Friday aswell

[PiuBelloAmante]

no you didnt!
stop saying that!

[PiuBelloAmante]

you are making problems that aren't there! just keep dating him!
sometimes a guy won't text you for a day and thats ok :)

[ciciking22]

i was gonna text him and invite him to my house but i was just on the phone to my mam and she doesn't want him here also i dont think he will be interested in coming

[ciciking22]

What do I do?

[PiuBelloAmante]

Meet up with him at a bar or somethjng go on a date

[ciciking22]

It's been two days haven't heard doubt he would do that

[PiuBelloAmante]

It's worth a try

[ciciking22]

Na I'm avoiding him for what he sone

[ciciking22]

Done

[ciciking22]

still haven't heard from him been 3 days

[ciciking22]

still haven't heard since Wednesday night knew its over

[PiuBelloAmante]

It's not over lol call him!

[ciciking22]

i can't dont want to look needy or like im chasing him

[ciciking22]

I thought we were ok and haven't heard from him since like he was like ride the lumps off ya he was even like I have someone else u might like and I said i said I am not a slut and he said I know your not

[PiuBelloAmante]

Woah... That is strange...
He offered someone else to you?

[ciciking22]

I think he was joking I'm not sure

[ciciking22]

He said he was gonna come see me inn my house cos it was free but I was in my mothers

[ThisDudeHere]

It's best to just move on. That guy wanted sex more than he wanted you as a person.

[reptocarl]

He likes you if you're going to fuck him