I constantly hear women talking about how they are attracted to men who are "confident". It's all you hear about from women these days. But what the hell does that mean exactly? I tried to be "confident" like they say– I struck out every time. One girl said I was rude and weird. Another thought I was being pushy and presumptive; another's friend who was with her said I was a psycho. Clearly, something was lost in translation here. I interpreted this advice about being confident to mean I was confident/sure she was going to give me her number or go home with me. I even said that to them. I told them that I knew she was attracted to me; that I knew she was going to give me her number or leave with me. That was my "confidence" tactic and it totally failed. So ladies, please explain to me in detail what the hell you mean about being confident.
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Confidence just means having the guts to approach and talk to her and then following up - if you have a great conversation then have the confidence to ask her out (not telling her she will go out with you). Have the confidence to call her when you say you will. Whenever you talk about what she will do for you that comes across as arrogant and controlling. And make the discussion more about her than yourself by asking her questions to get to know who she is.0