basically, this guy and i have a history but our timing never lined up. we met at a time when he was in a relationship and then he ended it with her to be with me. being that he was going to head to a dif college in the winter, he didn't want anything serious so he told me to forget about him and that maybe when he's in the right frame of mind at a dif time we can see what we have and get to know each other better. he contacted me out of the blue in April saying that he'd have liked to have seen me before we both left for our trips but that he didn't have time. we continued takling for the next couple of months and he basically asked me out for when he came home for 2 weeks before leaving again. unfortunately, things happened and he was unable to take me out. when i asked him what we do now he said we wait till he's home in December. i told him that id wait so long as he promises me because i can't keep getting hurt by him and he did promise. he hates online com so he doesn't wanna start a relationship off that way, basically implying little to no com these next few months. i told him that i dont like that and he said he'd compromise and maybe Skype a few times. but now that i look back on things, i realize that im settling here for what he wants. i dont want to wait around for him anymore because im better than that but im not sure if i should tell him this or if i should just leave it be and wait for him to message me. cuz here's the thing. im looking for a relationship with him, but im beginning to see that this is one sided. ya i know he's interested in me but he's said he's in no rush, meaning that im not a priority and that doesn't sit well with me. i get that he doesn't like online relationships cuz neither do i, BUT im not sure what to do here. do i message him and tell him that I've thought it through and that i deserve more than he can offer me. cuz what if everything goes well during dec and then he leaves again? do we go back to no com? thats my fear
I REALLY NEED ADVICE!!! should I tell him that I will wait for him like he asked me to or should I tell him off?
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Don't settle. But that's doesn't mean you forget about him. Tell him like it is. It seems like there is effort on both ends but I mean if you want to be together you should. Distance shouldn't mean anything. But I do agree that isn't how you should start things. But I mean you don't want to live life with "what's ifs"0
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