I've dated douchebags, nice guys etc. Why does this keep happening to me? Guys will be so into me and chase me for weeks, months etc but as soon as I show them I like them back they just stop liking me.
Wtf.. what do i do?
Most Helpful Guy
from that quick short explanation... i would say...
+ Maybe you were playing hard to get and not showing any little emotion back to them when they were chasing you... for months and more? some guys will become tired because he might not see any response from you or even a little and give up the pointless chase, only then maybe you started to show them but its too late?
+ Maybe the balance of the emotion you showed to them when they were chasing you and when you finally show your emotion back is too much? showed too much emotion quickly might make guys step back?
+ OR... maybe those guys are player, or just plain wrong in the head :D4
Most Helpful Girl
This is what you do. You dont play games. Games attract guys who are insecure assholes. So before dating you look for guys you find attractive. You compliment them and the guys who are responsive to being treated with kindness and respect you date. The other guys, you créate a big mental trashcan that says, "Waste of my time".
Next step ask yourself why you have these feelings and why you've expressed them multiple times to no avail. Maybe you want a loving relationship so badly that you experience these emotions every time you are dating someone who could potentially be "The One". When you start expressing these feelings and the guy hasn't developed trust in you and neighther of you guys haven't spent enough time getting to know each other, you are automatically put in the "Crazy Woman Who Wants Relationship but doesn't Really Know Me" category. So on this front you have to be very patient (spend time meditating) and allow him to show his affection through actions and then after a year of him doing nice things for you and you doing nice things for him, you can tell him how you think he is a wonderful person and that you love him and your words will have more credit to them.0