I think it's great, it shows that she can take care of herself, which is attractive. I wouldn't call that wife skills, but basic independent skills. I don't make the bed though, but because I prefer to not do it since it doesn't bother me. If I have someone coming then I would do it.
I think certain "wife skills" just show that a woman can look after herself (and independence is something that everyone finds attractive in a partner, like if a guy knows how to cook or whatever most girls would find that appealing too) or otherwise they show that the person is considerate about their partner and reiterate their commitment in the relationship (like anytime someone does something for their partner whatever it may be, but they do it without being asked because they care about the other person it's seen as a sign of their care and love for the other person). That being said, some cultures still have very definite ideas about the role of men and women in a relationship. He probably wasn't intentionally being derogatory but maybe he has grown up with certain ideals of family life? There's nothing wrong with this, some people are more i guess traditional in their thinking... it doesn't mean he thinks less of you or anything. But if your idea of relationship roles don't mesh well, just keep that in mind and be ready to deal with it later on down the track.
I genuinely enjoy it, old fashioned women are my prefered type and it shows that they have skills required to be good mothers. And in my opinion before your my wife and a mother to my kids you need to show that you are capable.
That being said I like to do that kind of stuff as well, I mean a man has to pull his weight around the house to. and give the women a break to, it's not all on her after all.
It's always felt a bit poignant to me when a girl tried to intimate that she would be a good homemaker. It was always something related to cooking, cleaning or child-rearing.
I suppose it was flattering in an oblique way but my internal response (which went unspoken) was basically: "You do not need to try to impress me. You're just showing me how far we have to go until you can feel truly at ease and not have to market yourself."
It's nice but not a big deal for me. There are other more important qualities: intellectual compatibility, sexual compatibility, intelligence and disposition, common interests. We can share the housework or hire a maid for the stuff we don't want to do.
Absolutely, yes, 100%. It's not even the actions themselves, it's the intent that goes along with it that makes it attractive. Not only that, femininity brings out the best in me. I am willing to put myself on the line more for someone like that, stand up for her, respect her, and treat her like a man should.
Not that I don't try with all women, but a surprising amount just don't see the value in the gesture. Feminine women really seem to appreciate my masculinity and it brings out a ton of good things in me. Just something hot about a woman who wants to take care of you, even if you're fully capable and don't mind doing it yourself.
most guys will love it. Will it make any difference when someone is deciding to ask you to marry them? I sure hope not. it might for some. but in the end all that should matter is if you love that person more then anything else. can you or would you want to, live without them or not?
It depends on the man. In cases like cleaning, it's an especially polarized scenario. We like having a clean house, but some of us don't think it's worth the amount of work it would take to pass a white glove inspection. So when she shows that high a dedication to cleanliness, some men might love it, but others would feel rejected and picked-on by her need to clean everything up. As it turns out, my fiancee is a slight neat freak and I'm more aligned with the second category of men, but I love her despite it. :p. As for other "wife skills", as long as you're humble about them, they will be deemed either neutral or positive. Just try not to be prideful about them. Otherwise your man could perceive the showing of these skills as a form of guilt manipulation.
I would credit you and say that is awesome you can do them things some guys are ungrateful of their girlfriends how i wish i had a girlfriend who i could praise her for things and love her with all my heart ,
I think he means it in a good way. He is saying that these are things he considers to be important in a spouse. By using the phrase brownie points he is letting you know that it's not a deal breaker for himself but that he really appreciates it and finds this quality appealing. He doesn't want you to feel pressured though.
Hell yeah we notice. One of the 1st time I stayed at my GF's place, the next morning she offered me breakfast, made me coffee, folded my clothes and gave me her spare keys so I could sleep in while she went to work (I was off that day).
That's stuff went straight to the 'Long term potential' list.
Guys love it. If a guy is looking for a long term relationship, or a "keeper" these will indicate to him that you are not going to be a freeloader, and that you have more to contribute to the relationship than just sex or entertainment. If he is condescending about it, then he may not be looking for a long term relationship, or he is just being stupid and unappreciative of a feminine girl.
I'm very ok with girls choosing to be who they are and do what they want. But when a girl does these kind of things it automatically makes me feel a LOT better about her. I've asked girls out for simple things like offering to throw my trash away for me.
Sure, I like it. Not sure why your boy would say it in a condescending way. If anything, I suppose the guy should be doing that too, not so much to show his "husband skills", but just so that... I don't know - it improves life?
"Wife skills"? Really? Is this your end game, to simply get married? What about finding a man to be your partner through life? Why don't you focus on just being the best person you can be, and stop focusing on having a certain set of skills that you think guys might be attracted to.
guys like it... but I like it more if my boyfriend knows how to do it too. I want to split chores 50/50 with him. I think me help paying for stuff/our rent is more important than doing chores to be honest.