Sorry about the title it's a bit vague. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and we are so happy together just like the first day we met. Anyhow my boyfriend work for apple and this requires him to do a lot of travel. He has this coworker that is always with him and at first I didn't mind at all but when he comes home and tells me that his coworker tried to kiss him it makes me mad. They both have each others phone numbers and she constanly texts my boyfriend at night asking him to go out with her and have a drink or go to parties with her. My boyfriend is a good guy but he's not an assertive guy. We went to a company party and I saw her and she knows we are happily together but she just won't stop chasing after my boyfriend. My boyfriend doesn't text her back or engage her at all only if it's for work but he also hasn't told her to stop doing all these things. I never told him about how sad I get because I am afraid he'll think I am insecure about myself or that I dont trust him, I just want him to tell her to stop. Also for girls why would another female come and try to steal another women's man away what provokes them?
Most Helpful Guy
You should tell him that it's bothering you and making you sad how
his co-worker is acting with him , i hate to tell you this but unless he
gets some backbone and tells this woman to lay off or you give her
a piece of your mind that woman will continue with this behavior
she shouldn't be texting him and asking him to go out for drinks
she shouldn't be trying to kiss him he got a girlfriend and it's you
it sounds like this woman is a fly by night and even though he isn't
responding back to her request this is bad on you and he should
be more assertive that i do agree with you but something needs done
hell if i had a girlfriend and co-working kept after me i would tell her
I got a girlfriend who i love dearly please leave me alone and do not
send me your request cause I'm on to you ,1
Most Helpful Girl
you have every right to be upset.
By asking him to put a stop to her advances you are not being insecure, you are just being assertive yourself because it is disrespectful to you.
She is pushing it and by him not telling her loud and clear that it is not going to happen, he is giving off mixed signals to her.
Maybe he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, but he needs to realize that he is hurting yours, and yours should be more important than some random woman.
Talk to him and tell him exactly how this makes you feel and what it is you expect him to do about it.
I had a similar situation with my fiances Ex. she used to text from time to time asking how he's doing and stuff. He was usually just polite and gave a short answer back. So because he didn't cut her off, she assumed it was ok to invite him out for drinks. He asked me what he should write back to make it clear that he was not interested, so I told him to write "thank you but no thank you. I am very happy in my new relationship. take care!" and that was the end of it. She got the message loud and clear.2