I realize this can be frustrating and annoying at times, to say the least, but I also think you guys secretly crave attention, so I feel like it depends on your mood and whatcha got going on, am I right or wrong on this?
Multiple texts are fine if she doesn't expect me to respond to them all, or read them for that matter. I might like attention, but I get the same attention from my dishwasher and microwave. They respond with annoying beeps and flashes that inform me of every bit of minutia that I just don't care about. That isn't the kind of attention I want.
If he doesn't answer you, there are 2 options: He is not seeing them, and you will be seen as an atention seeker, always sending messages, so when he comes back, he'll get like 10 messages and realize all the preassure you're doing on him: it's bad. Option 2 he is not answering because he isn't interested; doesn't care; not in the mood. Then that is anoying, so if he is anwsering he will give some clue to when to stop it. If he is not answeing and you're not mad at him, I would stop at the second or third unanswared.
That would be incredible to get attention. Girls never give me any attention whatsoever.` I always have to text first, and if im not funny, charming, or otherwise very engaging I get hardly any response. I get jealous when I see girls texting their boyfriend how much they love them. I never even get a "hey, how's your day going?". Basically it feels completely opposite to this--not getting any texts whatsoever. Its always a 1 way street with me at least. I'd seriously think i was being conned if a girl was giving me that much attenton
sometimes and it depends on what is happening and what the texts are about. if I am just sitting and watching TV with nothing happening, it is fine. if I am in bed wanting to go to sleep, or if I am in the middle of something, then it is just irritating. and if it happens too often it is irritating. if you need to say that much call. texting has become too much of a crutch. I rather hear her voice then get a text.
I like it personally, but it can get overwhelming and I think can also be detrimental to a relationship. The reason is because of the effect of the communication. When we communicate over the computer we have a harder time relating to the writer and see the attempt at communication more as information and with much less emotion. When you communicate in person you communicate mostly with body language and gestures. A subtle shuffle of the feet or a soft smile allow us to connect on a much better way for relationships. So while we do crave the attention it is important to make sure we don't create and overload of information. I know that has effected my past relationships. After working a long day receiving multiple texts in a row can be exhausting.
I am ok with it as long as you do not demand that I answer. I prefer talking to you once I am done with the day and spend some time with you and a glass of wine and hear you talk about your day while I massage your shoulders and kiss you in the neck. How does it sound?
I like it a lot, but when I really need to be getting work done it can kinda be annoying cause I don't want to make you feel bad but I really need you to stop. But yes we love to have that kind of attention from our girlfriend