The title says it all.
I'm a 22 y/o financier dating a 28 y/o psychologist.
Our conversations are out of this world. We've literally had dates that have lasted over 24 hours. She's attractive, and I also find her attractive. I'm attractive, and she also finds me attractive.
We've been seeing each other for 3-4 months now, in this quasi-friendly yet quasi-dating sort of relationship. Since day one I asked her out directly, and we've been dating and knew that we were both interested in each other. We've talked about the long-term possibilities of our relationship, and she is s/o I would definitely want to be with. But I don't feel comfortable taking it to the next level!
She tries communicating to me how badly she wants us going to the next level, w/o ever verbalizing her frustration at me for not taking it there yet. She touches me constantly, like all over. Comes close, yadda yadda, I get it. I just don't feel comfortable yet, even though I know she wants to.
As a guy from a European family, I've never had much faith in the emotional honesty of women. My biggest fear is being controlled, manipulated, lied to, used, taken advantage of, and obviously left emotionally hurt. You can imagine how much those fears are magnified when I'm dating:
a. a woman who is much older than me
b. one who is a psychologist
I don't know what I can or can't trust. If I'll ever be able to fully trust. It's weird. I feel attracted to her, but I've never once thought of us having sex, tried to imagine what she looks like naked, or want to have sex with her.
I can just imagine how confused and frustrated she's feeling with my actions (or "inaction"), and I just want to be fair to her.
Guys? Girls? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
- What can I do for her?
- How can I get over this?
Most Helpful Girl
IMO, be honest with her. Tell her how you feel about it all... she's a psychologist, maybe she'll know how to handle it lol.. but in all seriousness, I know what you mean about not trusting her about this stuff. I have trouble trusting guys who hint they are into me or want to be boyfriend/girlfriend because I'm afraid I'm going to be wasting my time on someone who won't end up being my future husband and will just end up breaking my heart. I'm paranoid, I know.
Maybe, since you see yourself in the long run with her, you can say you want to wait until marriage before having sex, so you trust her more and are more certain she is 'the one'.0