I don't know if i'm jumping the gun here. I have a weird feeling I may have met the "one". I'm 26 and have been single for many years. I've never had this feeling before for someone. We know each other through mutual friends and recently I have been spending a lot of time with my best friend girl and him who are best friends. The more i'm getting to know him the more it feels like we are on the same wave lenght. Like we have the same sense of humor and like almost all the same thing. I think I'm falling for him he is the nicest person i've ever met. The problem is the more i'm developping this feelings the more shy I am becoming arounf him. I want to show him my interest because he is also really shy. I just need some tips on how to show that I like him as more than friends without coming on too strong. Also am I imgining this or is this how it feels to find the one?
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OK, first, take a deep breath - CALM DOWN.
You're not in a relationship with this guy. You only know him on a fairly superficial level yet, so allowing yourself to focus your energy on this growing infatuation and the idea that he's "the one" is only going to cause problems. When you start to obsess over someone you don't know well like that, it's human nature to begin to project all the things you want in a partner onto them, which isn't good because then if something DOES happen with them, you'll end up disappointed when they inevitably don't live up to the image you've casted in your head for them. And if something DOESN'T happen, you'll be convinced that you've lost any chance at love, which is ridiculous.
So, like I said, CALM DOWN. And just try to spend more time with him and get to know him - and tell him that you'd like to get to know him as more than just a friend.0