I'm a size 4 he is overweight with rolls. I gained weight because I spend more time with him and it is really hot outside but I'll lose it in the fall.
He tells me he hates saggy boobs. Mine aren't but they will be one day and he is controlling about my weight. I'm smart, well educated, good earner, funny and pretty I just want to be liked for who I am.
Tell him if he keeps pointing out your flaws your going to start pointing out his and see what he says. Cause if he makes a huge deal out of it then explain how he's only tearing you down and not helping your selfesteem.
How come it doesn't bother him that he's fat, but it bothers him you've put on a little weight? Hmmmm I'd dump his sorry ass. he sounds controlling and he relies on manipulation through making women feel like crap so they think they can't have anyone better than them. You sound hot and smart. What are you even doing with him?
Draw a line, make it very clear that it is unacceptable to you when he criticizes/tries to control you like that. If he doesn't respect that you've told him not to, then break up with him. 4 pounds is hardly anything, so don't let him make you feel bad.
It's better to leave, he sounds shallow and, as you said, is controlling about your weight. If you *let's say* marry him, there are chances of him controlling more than just your weight. "I'm a size 4 he is overweight with rolls." 👆 This sounds more like he is with you because of your looks. But what you do is up to you.
Talk to him. Tell him it bothers you. You are not even fat. If he can not understand, and love you for you, then that is when you take the intiative to leave him alone. Life is way too short for you to be in this type of predicament.
If he doesn't cherish you for who you are, and love you no matter what, then he isn't worth it. You shouldn't have to feel bad about yourself because of what he says and does. You need to be confident in who you are. My mom has always said don't let a man define who you are. you are strong independent, beautiful and loved very much, and if a guy is going to destroy how you feel and make you insecure, he doesn't deserve you. Its not important what the outside looks like, its the inside. You shouldn't lose weight because your boyfriend criticizes you. Lose weight because you want to be healthy and want to take care of yourself. But being a size 4, you don't even need to think about that. Always remember you're perfect how you are. Don't change for anyone!