I'm just curious and can't decide what the best direction to with is? Is it a turn off that I'm a Virgin or a turn on? Also, what if we already went to 3rd base and I stopped it before it went any further. Do I need to explain why?
Is it important to tell the guy you are dating you're a Virgin?
What Guys Said 2
I do think you should tell him so he knows how to have sex with you and understands the first time may be painful.
It doesn't make any difference to me whether or not I would date somebody, though.1
It shouldn't make much difference to the relationship however as someone has already stated it may be a good idea to tell him so he knows it may hurt you.1
What Girls Said 5
No. Unless you have confirmed that you and this guy are actually going to have a future then he does not need to know if you are a virgin. I stayed a virgin until I was 21 and chose not to disclose this information to guys. This is because most of the guys you date are futureless anyway. The connection is not going to evolve and you two are never going to develop a legitimate, impactful relationship so why does he need to know? Plus, some guys think that virgins are trophies and will disgustingly prey on their virginity like a vulture hovering and waiting for it's meal. They may not even truly love you or be all that into you but they will wait as long as it takes to devour the vulnerable, one time experience that is your virginity. You gotta look out for those azzes!
You do not need to explain yourself sexually to a guy who is not your boyfriend. You don't owe him an explanation nor do you have to disclose how much extra skin you have in your vaggie. Never tell them unless they officially become a boyfriend.1
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in all truth just be honest its not a bad things to be a virgin, many girls today are not the fact that you still are just makes you special no matter what people and society is thats something good. once you lose you can't get it back so do it with someone who actually loves you and who would move mountains if he had to just to be with you kinda cheesy but true.1
Tell him, but only for your own sake. You're a virgin, which means your first time it's probably going to be painful. Tell him in order to be more careful.0
I usually tell the guy straight away
u should tell him, he needs to be gentle0
How long exactly have you been dating this guy? But besides that, I would say that you definitely need to. If you tell him, then he will be much more easier with you and will not expect you to be a lady of experience.0