I'm not happy or proud of this, here's the situation.
We dated briefly, but I got back with my ex (T) and we moved in together. I met up with C (other guy) as a friend and I still felt something. Before he and I met up he wasn't sure because he "doesn't really be friends with girls he had unfinished business with, particularly when they have a boyfriend." After we met up I knew I needed to end things with T because I wasn't happy.
I guess C had been saying this girl and they made it official during this time. It broke my heart a little but I understood. He and I would talk occasionally, then we started meeting up occasionally (as friends). Now we've hooked up about 5 times over the last 4 months. He's been with his girlfriend about a year. He's never talked to me directly about her.
The first time I thought maybe they'd broken up. The second time I told him I couldn't hook up because I was on my ladies days (haha). And he said something about how we always take it too far. The third time I was drunk and hit him up. The fourth and fifth both happened this week.
He's always nice to me and holds me. The fifth is the first time I've felt really bad about it. I saw two glasses of water on the night stand. They may have both been his but at the moment all I could think is about her. How she's a happy girl who thinks she's in a happy relationship. And suddenly I got jealous of her and mad at him.
I'm going to get out of this. I don't text him again, even if he hits me up. I can't do this to someone else (it was easier when it felt like she didn't exist). He just has this pull over me, and he probably doesn't even care about me.
Is there any chance he cares about me?
What should I do? My friends have all said to tell her, but I don't think of I'd be doing it for her, and if he cares about her and was just making a mistake I don't want to ruin things for him.
Most Helpful Guy
Is there any chance he cares about you?
well... that's a tough one. he's currently in a relationship with another girl but fucking you at the same time so whos to say if he really did care about you he wouldn't just pull the same shit on you with his current girlfriend with another girl and keep you out of the loop1
Most Helpful Girl
Sure there's a chance he cares for you. Should that mean you wait around, essentially be a home-wrecker, for him to cheat for who knows how long then break-up with his girl to be with you?
That's your call. You're equally to blame, just as much as him. You've already helped him 'ruin things', cheating is an unfixable ideal-breaker in 99% of relationship in which it occurs. The damage is already done, him breaking up with her would just be the nail in the coffin.0