I'm moderately attractive, a successful DJ and Professional gamer, ' well endowed ' and from a well off family, and have a lot of money myself. How come women don't want to date someone who's constantly partying? What's your honest problem with how I live my life? I also have social anxiety, but I self medicate consistently. Literally every time I hang out with someone. When I'm playing at clubs, parties, or music festivals most girls want me when they see me performing, but don't want anything long term.
I think most people want to really get to know somebody - be able to see the real person beneath their public mask. Stability is also a major factor for girls, they need to know you can be their rock and visa versa. I'm not saying you personally can't, but a lot of people have negative connotations with drugs and constant partying etc. They might also want someone they can spend time with where it isn't just at a club or a wild party; they might want someone they know will take the time to go places with them that can be special and meaningful. Not that everything has to be vomit-worthy romantic but sometimes just going somewhere casual or chilled out can be really great. If girls only see the partying side of you they probably assume you are a player (I obviously don't know you so I can't comment on that) and if they are looking for a boyfriend then players aren't really on their list. The other thing is they might think tat all you're interested in is partying and drinking, and that that's all you ever do in your free time. I guess if it is all you do in your free time and it's a huge part of your life you should look for a girl who has a similar lifestyle
Someone who constantly parties, just sounds like a guy who's around women 24/7. I don't know about you, but it doesn't sound like going into a relationship with a person like that will guarantee me a long term, serious relationship.
It's just to reckless, too much drama for my taste.
Well you pretty much answered your own question here: "I'm constantly high or drunk or partying". If anything, that's the main reason. A lot of girls really don't want to date a guy who lives that kind of lifestyle, and the ones who do date you often do the same things and they're not the kind of women who want a long term relationship.
You can live your life anyway that you want to, but you also can't expect every kind of girl to find it am attractive lifestyle. For me, using drugs, drinking and partying all the time isn't what I look for in a guy. No offense, but it's a turn off to me. I don't live that kind of life and I want a guy who lives the same kind of life as me in order for it to work in the long term.
I have some social anxiety too but I deal with it a different way.
girls want a guy who has his shit figured out. not someone who drinks, parties, and gambles. and by the their is no such as a professional gambler that means "i spend my money away and have not lost a ton of my life savings" i would know i was born and raised in Nevada, USA. If you still want to gamble, party, and drink thats fine. here in Nevada when i hear slot machines i think of someone "paying" for the education for kids K-12.