My boyfriend and his family have been going through a LOT of suffering recently, both his grandmother and grandfather are having issues and it's causing my boyfriends family a lot of financial issues, he's been having a hard time lately with dealing with this and I've found that he hasn't spoken about it to me much, he only just vented to me about it and now I have an urge to be there for him through all of this, because before I wasn't aware of the severity of the situation. Him and his family have to pack up his grandfathers house, sell it, etc and do work together on it to get it gone, plus he goes and visits them frequently in the hospital, would it be supportive or disrespectful of me to go along with him, or even ask to be able to help him with cleaning up, etc? I think he wants me there, he just says he doesn't want me to feel the stress that he does atm
Most Helpful Guy
it would not be disrespectful to tell him you would love to help. You tell him you two are friends first, and you want to help your friend. Not out of obligation but out of love and friendship. Then tell him you will help anyway he needs if, but here are some specific things you know you could do: x, y and z0
Most Helpful Girl
Help as much as you can.
He'll appreciate it... trust me!
It's definitely not disrespectful.
I would consider "disrespect" telling him that you don't want to hear about his problems anymore, or showing that you are physically unsupportive.
You are doing the complete opposite.
You have nothing to be doubtful about.
You seem like a loving, caring, and wonderful girlfriend <31